“Are you having sexual problems?” – is a question that’s hard to answer but shows on your performance in the bedroom. Are sexual problems a cause of immediate concern? For some, yes, especially when that sexual dysfunction can cause relationship problems.  

Both men and women can experience sexual disorders. Fortunately, with established research and advanced technology, there are many treatment options available to improve sexual functioning. It can be tough to spark a conversation about this with friends and family, so here’s an article that can be a helpful resource for you.  


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What Is Sexual Dysfunction?

Sexual dysfunctions are problems encountered while having sex. It may be difficult to erect the penis (Erectile dysfunction) in men or an inability to achieve orgasm in women (Anorgasmia). These sexual dysfunctions have an outcome for you or your partner – an unsatisfied sex life. 

You may think your sex life is your own problem, but for someone with a partner, love-making is part of the equation to a healthy relationship. When sexual issues persistently arise, it may be a sexual disorder. This is why it’s important to assess whether you’re struggling with your sex life or not.

There are different types of sexual disorders. The diagnosis or treatment will depend on what you’re experiencing and what causes the sexual dysfunction. The risk factors and causes on both men and women may be due to physical conditions, hormonal problems, unhealthy lifestyle, medications side effects (like serotonin reuptake inhibitors), or psychological causes. 

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Treatments for Sexual Disorders in Women

The most common female sexual dysfunction is Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder (low libido or decreased sexual desire), vaginal dryness, not having an orgasm or painful intercourse. 

Communication with your partner, doctor, or counselor is the key to improve your sexual health. The goal of treatment for female sexual dysfunction is to address the underlying cause and choose a treatment that works for you.

Medical Treatment

The female sexual dysfunction may be caused by physical conditions like diabetes, hormone problems, or heart disease. The goal is first to address the medical problem and see if there are improvements in sexual function. If not, here are some possible treatment options for female sexual dysfunction:

  • Hormone Therapy: Vaginal dryness is caused by low estrogen levels, which occurs when the woman ages. Estrogen therapy is recommended to increase the blood flow in the vagina and promote natural lubrication. Androgen therapy may also be given, which includes testosterone. 
  • Ospemifene (Osphena): This medication is given to women who experience pain during sex caused by vulvovaginal atrophy (the drying, thinning, and inflammation of vaginal walls). Of course, this medication can be taken upon your doctor’s approval. Make sure to first consult a medical professional before you take this medicine.
  • Flibanserin (Addyi) or Bremelanotide (Vyleesi): The doctor may recommend either Addyi or Vyleesi to premenopausal women with low sexual desire. These medications are self-injected into the belly or thigh before having sex. If you feel unpleasant side effects from these medications, consult your healthcare provider immediately. 

Non-Medical Treatment

Female sexual dysfunction may also be caused by underlying mental health issues like depression, anxiety, traumatic sexual history, or history of sexual abuse. If the female sexual dysfunction is caused by psychological problems, seeking help from a counselor or mental health professional is the best choice. 

  • Couple’s Therapy: In couples’ therapy, it is important to talk and listen to your partner regarding both your sexual health. Some couples are unable to talk openly about the issues in the bedroom (especially men). But by doing so, providing non-threatening feedback on your partner’s sexual performance may lead to greater intimacy in the future. 
  • Healthy Lifestyle: Here’s what both men and women need to know, when you’re experiencing sexual dysfunction, try to practice a healthy lifestyle first before resorting to medical treatment. A healthy lifestyle means exercising regularly, getting enough sleep, limit alcohol intake, stop smoking, and healthy diet. All these can decrease stress and elevate your mood so you can have a more enjoyable sexual experience. 
  • Seek Counseling: Talking to a sex therapist or counselor may help you and your partner formulate strategies for improved sexual activity. The therapy may include ways to improve intimacy in the relationship, increase sexual desire, address issues that are affecting your sex drive, and optimize the sexual response. 
  • Other options: Lubricants may be used in case of vaginal dryness. For additional stimulation, some women may use sex devices like a vibrator. 

Treatment for Sexual Dysfunction in Men

There are different types of sexual dysfunction in men: low libido, premature ejaculation, retarded ejaculation (despite enough sexual stimulation), erectile dysfunction, sexual aversion disorder, pain disorders are the most common. Just like in women, causes may be due to physical and mental health factors. The goal of treatment is focused on addressing the underlying cause to achieve a healthy sexual response. 

Medical Treatment

  • Prosthesis: These are implants placed on the penis for men who have erectile dysfunction. The prosthesis will help with the erection of the penis. 
  • Medication: Oral medication may include phosphodiesterase inhibitors (PDE-5), an example of which is the well-known Viagra. 
  • Other options to improve erection: Transuretheral therapy (liquid is introduced to the urethra, and an elastic band is applied at the base of the penis to maintain an erection. Intracavernous injection (e.g., alprostadil, papaverine, or other drug combinations). Make sure to consult with your primary healthcare provider if you feel any side effects. 

Non-Medical Treatment

Like for the treatment interventions for women, lifestyle change is the first option before trying on medications and surgery. If the sexual problem is caused by mental health problems, counseling can help.

  • Premature Ejaculation: For premature ejaculation, psychological therapy and couple’s therapy will be useful. During therapy, you have the time to explore speculations you have about why such issue arises. You’re also guided by a mental health professional who can help you deal with the issues that affect your sex life.
  • Anorgasmia: Psychiatric counseling can help with anorgasmia (disordered orgasm or inability to achieve orgasm) to address the underlying cause. 
  • Consult with your doctor: If you’re taking medications that cause a delay in ejaculation, talk to your doctor first and what’s the best step to do—examples of medication that causes a delay in ejaculation as selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors. 

The Bottom Line

You may have noticed that the treatment for sexual dysfunction in both men and women are the same. Know the cause, change your lifestyle, address a medical problem, seek counseling for mental health problems. That’s what you have to remember. Do not let sexual problems get in the way of making yourself and your partner happy. 


Know your treatment options and do it now. If you’re looking for the best counselors, schedule an appointment now at Kentucky Counseling Center.

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